Pregnancy and Infanf loss is not a favored topic. It is not broadcasted. It is not something enjoyable. It is not wanted. It does not make us a hero if you've experienced the loss of a baby. It is a taboo subject. It is a delicate one. It is a sensitive conversation and a personal connection.
Pregnancy and Infanf Loss is more than a support group or the number of members. It is not a money making scheme. It is not a "job". Pregnancy and Infant Loss is not a way to desperately take ideas and make them your own so you can simply have the light shine on your own self.
Pregnancy and Infant Loss is about babies. It is about our babies. It is about men and women. Moms, dads, sisters, brothers, or grandparents. It's a story. A connection. We aren't working in community of pregnancy and infant loss to win a trophy.
We are working in pregnancy and infant loss to keep our babies memory alive. We are seeking to help the next mother or father. I won't have a shelf of trophies waiting for me in heaven. But I hope to have an army of babies whom Bentley has brought their families into our lives.
Where do I go with this post? ...it's just ashame that as a bereaved mother, I sometimes questions the motives of other organizations or individuals who may work in the loss community. It hurts the bereaved community when someone goes about to help for themselves or to make a job. I think sometimes too that others take advantage of connections and people's stories that it breaks my heart as they don't get how destructive their service can then be to the bereaved community.
We buried our babies. We said hello but then we said goodbye. We left the hospital without our babies. We entered an office to leave a different person all in a split second. So sometimes I just want to say don't take advantage. Don't use our stories for your gain.
Disclosure:
I run locally faces of loss/faces of Hope of Hagerstown Md. I am also apart of Stillbirthday which is a internationally known organization. My goal is to assist people with resources and outlets to gain assistance in handling the loss of their precious babies and I want to help keep their memories alive. I didn't ask for this story. I didn't ask for this life. But, I have been giving an opportunity to reach more ppl in Bentleys 38 weeks than I ever could have.
Some may ask where this post comes from but I just want it to be made known that Blake and I work on our own in Faces of Loss/Faces of Hope and Stillbirthday is partnering with Heidi and the structures that she has already created. I do not claim to be apart of any other organizations locally as far as running them or being leadership in their resources.